Reggie Bush likes White girls. It is his preference some may say. What is the problem? The problem is that some people, many sistas, feel that because Mr. Bush has a known fetish for White girls, he should not be celebrated as a successful Black man on the cover of Essence. I get it. Reggie Bush is an eligible successful Black man who seems to keep running to the White girls. Specifically Kim Kardashian, who some Black women despise for that very reason. They feel that she is the typical White girl who wants to be Black enough just to date Black men but White enough to seem exotic or different from a “regular” Black woman. I personally think that Reggie is a handsome man but seems a bit self involved and thinks he is as pretty as Kim but I digress.
Guess what folks. Newsflash! Reggie Bush is not the only successful Black athlete or entertainer with a jonesing for the White girls. Nor will he be the last. Some people may see it as donkey bulls**t but it looks like we may have to chop this one up as a loss and move on. Also, lets be clear. Essence has had many magazine covers with other successful Black men who are married to beautiful Black women. Such as Denzel Washington, Will Smith, Forest Whitaker, Samuel Jackson, Bill Cosby, LL Cool J, Chris Rock, Boris Kodjoe, Snoop Dog, Jay-Z, Eddie Murphy (was married) and so on. In many cases their covers included their wives. Why all of a sudden are we choosing to attack Reggie Bush? Could it be something deeper? I think so. Hear my theory out. I believe that many young Black women are sick of seeing Black men like Reggie Bush parading around with a Kim Kardashian type or some other women who they feel is not deserving of his affections. It is bad enough that this chick has her own show after gaining a career from a sex tape with ultra lame playboy Ray-J. No need for Essence to twist the knife in the heart. Scenes like these make some Black women wonder what exactly does he feel is wrong with a Black women that he refuses to date one? We go on the defense. Why wouldn’t they be? It can be difficult being a woman out here on the dating scene having to pick and choose among the many losers to find your prince charming. Especially your chocolate prince charming.
Listen sista’s, although frustrated that does not give us the excuse to become bitter and attack someone for his personal choice and feel that that personal choice gives us a right to decide whether or not he should be congratulated for his success by being placed on the cover of an African American publication. In the end he can choose who he wants to love and who does not. We all can. Everyone is going to have to get over it. It is totally possible that Reggie might have some self hate issues. However in the end his partner is still his choice. Admittedly, I would love to see Mr. Bush with an equally curvaceous sista on his arm but I do not think that his choice of the opposite should somehow disqualify him for receiving props and accolades. At the end of the day, I am equally proud of him for his decision to be be a hardworking, career motivated Black man no matter what eye candy he has on his arm.
We as Black women are going to have to find a way to be mature and accept that this is his choice. Yes, I know, I know. Many of you do not want to hear this! However, here is the truth of the matter. His choices and decisions in love do not nor should they, take away or define him as a successful Black man. Think about it. Would you want those same guidelines and restrictions placed on you? I wouldn’t.
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GreenEyez
6 months ago
I absolutely do not agree! You know why? Cause this is not a choice or prefrenece…this is about status and appearance. It is about the SICKNESS that suggest that dating and mating with a whtie woman means you have indeed made it over. You have reached the peak of wealth of social status. And u know what because of this “status” illusion they get treated a whole lot better…like a damn golden apple. Well Im not going. We need healing in the black community and we need overall to show that BLACK LOVE is ok..not ghetto…tatented or defiled. Period point blank. Reggie Bush is a sell out and is clearly misguided.
pam
6 months ago
great post.
Michelle
6 months ago
Kim Kardashian is Armenian, not White. There is a difference. He likes who he likes. Who cares… really?
hey
6 months ago
i smell someone trying to make black girls angry..too bad they dont give a fuck loool this is sooo old **sigh**
tj
6 months ago
Oh Michelle-u r truly hilarious in this oh so post-racial America. lol. Personal choice? Oh please. Since when is systemic racism, white supremacy, and internalized racism a preference or personal choice. I am so tired of people who perpetuate the idea of the bitter black woman. Is it bitter to say that this man, or any other Black man, or many other Black men have an institutionalized preference for all things lily. Kim is just as institutionalized as Reggie. Beauty is not objective, nor is it universal. It is very social. And in this society we laud all things white, light, bright, long hair and other things that are not as biologically possible for Black women with out ALOT of work, plastic surgery and skin whitening. So that makes me bitter? No that makes me stereotyped and it makes me less desired because of this pseudo notion that these women are any more beautiful than me or any other woman of any other race. Whether Kim IS white or thinks she’s white or whatever-I could care less. She fits the phenotype and I bet Reggie didn’t ask her identity no more than Kobe’s self-hating butt asked Vanessa. OVER IT.
Shirley
6 months ago
It’s not the fact that he chose a white woman. Many of us could care less about that. It’s the white woman he chose. A woman whose sexual acts are just a google search away. Yet this clown parades her around like he’s won some kind of prize or something. Never would he feel that way if she were black. Never. You can take that to the bank. He and his buddies would be calling her everything but a child of God and avoiding her like the plague. The double standard is very obvious and sistas have had it up to here, with people who perpetuate it. He certainly is not one to admire or to try and emulate. Why then is he on the cover of Essence Magazine? Our Magazine. This is the problem many of us have with the man.
Chaton
6 months ago
Our concept of beauty is social. While, we are all influenced by it. However, the heart knows no color Celebrities have the luxury of having greater exposure with a diverse group of people. So, it’s not surprising that they find love with people of other races. It’s got to be love though. I mean, she does have that sex tape…
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