Being A Player Is Played Out
You Might Think I’m Hating But….I cannot count the numerous times in my 28 years on this lovely earth that I have heard men having conversations about women and how many women they have had and blah, blah. Which brings me to this conclusion. It is 2010. Are we not over being pimps and players? Is cheating and or keeping dozens of women still cool in the day and age of diseases and baby moma/daddy drama? I mean come on! Does having a flock of women or constant cheating really make you feel like you are of importance in your mind? Are you that simple that is what you need to to feel confident and secure with yourself? Let Tiger be a lesson to all of you. Keeping a stable of women comes with its share of inconveniences. With that being said, I have concocted a short list of reasons why being a player in 2010 is played out. Feel free to add on.
1. Diseases and Other Eww-Wee’s!
Oh yeah, and I’m not talking about Ebola. There is a lot of hot s**t running ramped in 2009. I just do not think that a piece of a** ,as my mother so eloquently puts it, is worth catching something. Men and women are so relaxed with their sexual behavior, having unprotected sex with people you have known for a month or even a few weeks. I don’t get it. What is so wrong with wrapping up the goodies before going to dessert?
2. People Are Crazy.
Let me first say that I do not mean any disrespect by the following statement. I take the act of violence on others very serious. Now that we have that disclaimer out the way. Shew! When I say people are crazy, I mean that is not safe to play with everyone’s emotions. Some people are unstable whether you want to see it or not and they cannot handle being played with or even dumped. Case in point, Steve Mcnair. God rest the brothers soul but if he had not had been cheating on his wife, trying to be a “player” he would never have messed around with the chick who led to his untimely death. Was her reasoning and actions right? Hell no! Neither were his. I am in no way implying that he deserved to be killed however, women like her should put fear into these so called “players”. She knew the man was married yet she still became emotionally involved with him. Not everyone can handle being “played” or pushed to the side no matter what type of “arrangement” you think you have with them. Be weary of who you “play” with fellas. Some chicks are crazy and they do not play that!
3. Having A Herd Of Women Will Not Make Up For Whatever It Is You Are Lacking Internally.
From my experience, guys who date lots of women at once, or are constant cheaters are usually lacking something emotionally. Something happened to them or they witnessed something that makes them feel like they are missing something. The only way they know how to make up for that void is by dating numerous chicks and running up in them. They use this to stroke their ego. What is the problem? Did your mother never show you love and now you need to get it from various women? Do you REALLY feel that you are ugly and need constant confirmation via various women in order to assure that you are attractive. There has to be something deeper going on within than you simply enjoying the company of various women. Love yourself boy!
4. Some Guys Become Addicted To The Attention Thus Never Learning To Settle Down.
I do not know about you ladies, but in my humble opinion, it is especially unattractive to be a 40 year old man who has never been able to hold a stable relationship in his entire life. That makes me think that something is wrong with you. It cannot ALWAYS be the “crazy ex-girlfriends”. What are your issues? Why are you unable to maintain at least one or two adult relationships by this point in your life. There has to be deeper issues there than “these women be tripping” or “I just haven’t found the right one”. Screw face. I do not believe you brother.
5. Unwanted Pregnancies.
Sure you can say you are careful but nothing is 100 percent. One wrong eww-wee and you have an unwanted child and perhaps an unwanted life long connection to a woman that you only wanted to spend one night with. Too many guys chase after women, sex them down, get them pregnant and then realize that the chick is crazy. Too late! Now you are stuck with a kid and its crazy a** momma! Should have been more selective while “playing”.
6. It Makes You Less Attractive.
This connects to number 4. It is not attractive for any man of any adult age to to feel the need to have a stock of women. It really does make you look unattractive. One of the first things that crosses my mind when a guy who is known to be a whore approaches me is “when was the last time you have been tested?” Other thoughts like ” don’t ever put your mouth anywhere on me” and “go brush your teeth”, also come to mind.
