Amateurs Guide To Masturbation
Ladies, can you remember being in your freshman health class and they separated all of the boys from the girls to have the “special talk”? The one where they discussed your vagina and all of its exciting mechanisms. Can you recall the awkwardness you might have felt in that moment? I can. I can even recall the uncomfortableness of my teacher when explaining the dynamics of the vagina. Unfortunately there still is a lot of women who carry this same awkwardness about their sexuality and vagina on into their adult life. So much so, that they are unable to tell a lover their likes or dislikes and end up laying their like an old ass flat pillow because they are not fully enjoying the moment and are too ashamed to voice those feelings. Or even worse, you have been inflicted with society’s chauvinistic aphorisms that imply that women should not pleasure themselves in any fashion and doing so makes them oversexed/perverted in some way or overtly masculine, thus loosing your sense of femininity. This poses an even greater problem because now you have no clue on what you desire and therefore are unable to give some damn clear instructions! While men are allowed to diddle with themselves daily because that is “natural” in someway and therefore accepted. Screw that! This is 2010 and ladies should be able to get it in (Hey that rhymed, I’m so clever). Perhaps you have a significant other and still want to pleasure yourself at times. There is nothing wrong with that. It actually assists you and your partner in finding out what it is you like and dislike.
I can recall masturbating when I was younger because it was the only way I could achieve an orgasm other than through receiving oral. However, when I would do it, I would be so busy feeling ashamed or worrying if one of my roomies could hear my porn from the kitchen while making a sandwhich that I could never fully enjoy it. The truth is I was embarrassed on some levels. It wasn’t until I started following these guidelines that I began to fully enjoy my “alone time” and subsequently began to reach orgasm with my partner. After all, how can you tell them what you like if you have never tried it yourself? The following are a few tips that every woman should know when embarking on her first solo sexual experience.
1. Find A Quiet Time And Place
You might face some difficulties when attempting to masturbate. The damn dog won’t stop barking, the baby is crying and you have already fed and changed her diaper, and for some strange reason everybody suddenly needs your attention and wants to call you right in this moment! What to do? Do not stress. Wait until the baby is napping, unplug the damn phone and put the dog outside. Bruno will be alright in the yard for a short while. Trust me, I know it can be difficult. Especially when you can hear your roomies 4 year old screaming for cookies in the kitchen. Situations like that can make you feel less than clean… Which is why you have to create an atmosphere where you can have peace and a sense of alone-ness even if it is pseudo. This allows you to relax more and focus on your goal at hand. Pleasing you.
2. Get Your Supplies
Some women only need their hands but others needs a little help. Never be ashamed to let your Sheila E nasty girl out and venture off into nasty town to purchase the perfect masturbation personal assistant. Especially when there are so many on the market now for you to choose from. You can have anything from small to large to X-large if that’s how you like it. For instance, there is the standard dildo to new compact inventions like the Bullet. I can recall a roomie of mine raving about that little tool. Let your imagination go wild. Do not limit yourself in finding what pleases you.
3. Leave Fear And Embarrassment In Your Freshman Health Class
Now that you have your tools, release the fear. It is your vagina and you are not 16 anymore. If anyone should be touching it on a regular basis, it should be you. Sure, sometimes the vagina can be messy but you have to get pass that and remember that this is YOUR body and you have every right to know the ins and outs of it. There is nothing embarrassing about not only knowing your body but loving it as well. On the contrary it is quite natural. After all, it is YOUR body. So take ownership of all of it, including your vagina.
4. Let Your Mind Be Free
Stop thinking about the project due at work, putting that lasagna on or picking the kids up from school. Take a few moments in your day to be a little selfish and think about yourself only. You deserve the right to care for yourself in EVERY way. The rest of those things will be there when you are done.
5. Pay Attention To What Makes You Feel Good
Once you have reached a climax on your own, remember what you did to achieve that. Also, pay attention to the different touches, and sensations you receive when you did certain things. Embrace what you did to make your back arch. This only helps you in achieving an orgasm faster with a partner because if necessary you can now instruct them on how to make your back arch as well. 
6. Take Your Time
In the same way that your body does not respond to a man’s rushed half-hazard efforts in pleasing you, your body may not respond to yours. Which is why it is essential that you put aside time to focus on you. Even if you have to make the time. Even if it is only 30 minutes, use that 30 minutes to its fullest. This will also help to alleviate any frustration you might feel by having to rush and thus not climaxing on your own. Do not rush. Make time. Enjoy it. Enjoy yourself.
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lmao, lajuanda! love it. you know i have no shame in this department. and my tips are a) keep ur vibe in the freezer. a chilly willy is niiiiiiice and 2)get ur finger contaminated with some jalapeno juices. wash ur hands, the burn feeling stays then do it. woooooweeeeeeeeeeee. but dont let the hotness get inside u, jus on ur clit. its nutz! make sure u gotta supply of batteries cuz ull be awake all night:)