Comments on: She Just Isn’t That Into You http://yeahshesaidit.com/2010/03/09/im-just-not-that-into-you/ If You Don't Say It, I Will Sat, 11 Sep 2010 02:35:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Ralph http://yeahshesaidit.com/2010/03/09/im-just-not-that-into-you/comment-page-1/#comment-2002 Ralph Sat, 03 Apr 2010 17:24:37 +0000 http://yeahshesaidit.com/?p=5213#comment-2002 I have found the old saying to be true and a time saver, "honesty is the best policy." Time and life are too precious to play any level of game with myself or others. When I'm asked if I am seeing someone I am truthful and then I ask them what prompted that question? Whatever the answer I deal with it in a honest way as to my intentions. I find it interesting that sisters hold up the banner that I am looking for someone who is honest, yet they find themselves in certain situations where they skirt the honesty issue. You can't have it both ways. I have found the old saying to be true and a time saver, “honesty is the best policy.” Time and life are too precious to play any level of game with myself or others. When I’m asked if I am seeing someone I am truthful and then I ask them what prompted that question? Whatever the answer I deal with it in a honest way as to my intentions. I find it interesting that sisters hold up the banner that I am looking for someone who is honest, yet they find themselves in certain situations where they skirt the honesty issue. You can’t have it both ways.

]]> By: Carmen http://yeahshesaidit.com/2010/03/09/im-just-not-that-into-you/comment-page-1/#comment-1997 Carmen Sat, 03 Apr 2010 13:57:39 +0000 http://yeahshesaidit.com/?p=5213#comment-1997 THANK YOU ALL FOR LETTING ME SHARE. THANK YOU ALL FOR LETTING ME SHARE.

]]> By: Carmen http://yeahshesaidit.com/2010/03/09/im-just-not-that-into-you/comment-page-1/#comment-1996 Carmen Sat, 03 Apr 2010 13:56:25 +0000 http://yeahshesaidit.com/?p=5213#comment-1996 OH, MY GOD in heaven. I am 46 years old and you would have thought I am still stuck on stupid. This article does completely pertain to me and several other situations I've gotten into in my life. The Sad,really sad part is that I keep attracting the same kind of dude I know I'm going to wind up rejecting down the road. I'm not a sista that accepts "gifts" nor am I one to beg or ask for that fact. These men do nothing for my moral, my financial well-being, nor do they make me feel like They are part of this world. Ever since I was 16 I've had these "Problem People" in my life. It starts out me feeling sorry for them because they come off as SO Misunderstood and Pathetic. Then they flip the script And take my kindness for stupidity. Please give a sista a hand. OH, MY GOD in heaven. I am 46 years old and you would have thought I am still stuck on stupid. This article does completely pertain to me and several other situations I’ve gotten into in my life. The Sad,really sad part is that I keep attracting the same kind of dude I know I’m going to wind up rejecting down the road.

I’m not a sista that accepts “gifts” nor am I one to beg or ask for that fact. These men do nothing for my moral, my financial well-being, nor do they make me feel like They are part of this world. Ever since I was 16 I’ve had these “Problem People” in my life. It starts out me feeling sorry for them because they come off as SO Misunderstood and Pathetic. Then they flip the script And take my kindness for stupidity.
Please give a sista a hand.

]]> By: hopeless ro-man-tic http://yeahshesaidit.com/2010/03/09/im-just-not-that-into-you/comment-page-1/#comment-1939 hopeless ro-man-tic Fri, 02 Apr 2010 20:07:37 +0000 http://yeahshesaidit.com/?p=5213#comment-1939 Hello, I received an invite from you and decided to accept and I just visited your page. The first thing that caught my eye was this particular blog. I see that another female has responded so if you dont mind I'd like to give you an opinion from the other side (a male's point of veiw). First I'd like to commend you for having the guts to stick a moment(s) out with someone whom you know you're not compatible with. However, believe it or not a real man like myself would truely want to know how women feel. I'm not saying to be rude or just snap off , but be honest yet respectful. Unless the dude is an all out idiot he'd actually appreciate it and you gain respect cause you know what you want and dont mind voicing so. At this point you could lay the ground work for networking for example lets say he asked you for your number. if you dont want to give it to him simply say "Nah, but you can give me yours." And when he does (notice I didnt say if he does) when you do contact him again be honest and respectful and let him know where you stand with him and where you'd like to, for example: "Hey how are you I called you to discuss some things, if you don't mind (he won't). You seem like a pretty cool person but I want you to understand that I feel we'd be better off as homies" (if he should get offended. then say: "I just wanted to holla atcha and let you know how I feel but to also let you know that I'm not trying to just tell you go f@#$ yourself either. I just would like to be associates." Now his ego might be bruised but you're a woman and women are good at stroking a man's ego. Just say little things like "I wouldn't have called if I didn't respect you at least to the point of friendship!". Basically a kind of flattery. tell him things you might want to hear from one of your friends when you need a few words anw whallah you got yourself a new fried and possible networking connect. As with any relationship be it business, friendship, boyfriend-girlfriend, even marriage there is give and take. What I just explained is actually a type of management tool that some "corporations" call the "burn and build" method. You burn down the intensions of the other party and build your own with that very same party. Its a good tool for people like you and myself, kind-hearted people. Now don't get me being kind-hearted as I'm a push-over in fact most will tell you I'm as straight and uncut as most people. And thats how you need to become but you must be respectful with it and you'll see that telling people "No; No thank you; I'm not interested" can still be done in today's times you just have to do it the right way. Hope it helps you accomplish a few if not a lot of things you hope to. Hello, I received an invite from you and decided to accept and I just visited your page. The first thing that caught my eye was this particular blog. I see that another female has responded so if you dont mind I’d like to give you an opinion from the other side (a male’s point of veiw). First I’d like to commend you for having the guts to stick a moment(s) out with someone whom you know you’re not compatible with. However, believe it or not a real man like myself would truely want to know how women feel. I’m not saying to be rude or just snap off , but be honest yet respectful. Unless the dude is an all out idiot he’d actually appreciate it and you gain respect cause you know what you want and dont mind voicing so. At this point you could lay the ground work for networking for example lets say he asked you for your number. if you dont want to give it to him simply say “Nah, but you can give me yours.” And when he does (notice I didnt say if he does) when you do contact him again be honest and respectful and let him know where you stand with him and where you’d like to, for example: “Hey how are you I called you to discuss some things, if you don’t mind (he won’t). You seem like a pretty cool person but I want you to understand that I feel we’d be better off as homies” (if he should get offended. then say: “I just wanted to holla atcha and let you know how I feel but to also let you know that I’m not trying to just tell you go f@#$ yourself either. I just would like to be associates.” Now his ego might be bruised but you’re a woman and women are good at stroking a man’s ego. Just say little things like “I wouldn’t have called if I didn’t respect you at least to the point of friendship!”. Basically a kind of flattery. tell him things you might want to hear from one of your friends when you need a few words anw whallah you got yourself a new fried and possible networking connect. As with any relationship be it business, friendship, boyfriend-girlfriend, even marriage there is give and take. What I just explained is actually a type of management tool that some “corporations” call the “burn and build” method. You burn down the intensions of the other party and build your own with that very same party. Its a good tool for people like you and myself, kind-hearted people. Now don’t get me being kind-hearted as I’m a push-over in fact most will tell you I’m as straight and uncut as most people. And thats how you need to become but you must be respectful with it and you’ll see that telling people “No; No thank you; I’m not interested” can still be done in today’s times you just have to do it the right way. Hope it helps you accomplish a few if not a lot of things you hope to.

]]> By: Frankie Kate http://yeahshesaidit.com/2010/03/09/im-just-not-that-into-you/comment-page-1/#comment-1313 Frankie Kate Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:29:12 +0000 http://yeahshesaidit.com/?p=5213#comment-1313 I have found myself going on first dates with ppl that i dont have an interest in becaue i didnt want to seem b!T(#Y so i gave out my number and when they called, not wanted to see b!T(#y again, i even went on the date. on many occassions i have found myself in the restaurant bathroom saying to myself "Frankie, you dont even like this guy, why are you here?" So now i just simply dont give out MY number and i remember that its MY number and that they cant make me give it to them. I have found myself going on first dates with ppl that i dont have an interest in becaue i didnt want to seem b!T(#Y so i gave out my number and when they called, not wanted to see b!T(#y again, i even went on the date. on many occassions i have found myself in the restaurant bathroom saying to myself “Frankie, you dont even like this guy, why are you here?”
So now i just simply dont give out MY number and i remember that its MY number and that they cant make me give it to them.

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