My wife and I have an extra girlfriend together sometimes, and we have been together 10 years. The Cool Girlfriend is the one I ended up trusting and loving, and I have no need to "cheat" or hide anything.

i see nothing wrong with bringing another woman into the bedroom- i think it has and would make our relationship stronger because i would be reassured of my womans sexual maturity and if she wants to bring another dude into the bed--as long as it is no sword swapping gay sh&*- and he is there for her satisfaction and not mine- then i am perfectly fine with that as well!
i have been in open relationship and it was a growing and learning experience and if the couple doesnt do it on an often enough basis, only then do they run the risk of making their relationship fragile, because the newness of it all hasnt worn off yet and one of the couple will always want more then the other, therefore you have to do it enough times for it to become routinge and not so special or only agree to do it on special days of the year.
sounds difficult but it can be done!!!
not for everybody though!!!
honesty and self esteem and trust are the key!!!

I was with 2 girls at the same time. With the same two girls on two different occaisions. They didn't do anything with eachother. One rode my face, the other rode my rod. They both enjoyed it, because they came back again! I thought it was great, we are all still friends, although they married two other men.

Knowone is laying in my bed unless its my man and me the end

This is just something I'd never do in a serious relationship. Now with a fwb, sure why not? but deff not with the boyfriend. i like my men and i love my women but when im with one im tryna be with just that one and i dont want to share.

I guess bisexualism can add to ones lust for love and, also, may widen the horizonof happiness. But, it can't have a stabilising effect if one has a marriage to maintain.

Personally, I have a stupid side about viewing bisexuals. I do approve bisexual relationships in case of women, but not in case of men. About five dacades back, in college, on knowing about my "fancy" for bisexual girls my psychology professor's face wore a worried look and commented, "You are an addict. Addicted to vovoyeurism."

Folks, today I want to share a secret about those years of mine :

I used to be a very shy boy. But, some how girls liked and preferred to take me to a lonely place for chatting. Now I remember with a strange feeling that mostly in such chatting sessions, there used to be generallt two girls. Some times three too. Revelations provided me with strange sense of gratification.
Five of the girls, living single in privately rented accomodations were lesbians and had frequent sexual unions mutually as well as some other ladies whom I did not know. Through them, I came to know a very good looking and highly educated (a Ph.D)of 30; an intelligent and bubbly housewife in early thirties; another of 37 with two kids, another in mid forties, single with a very high profile job and having a daughter a few months older than me; and yet another single aged 47/48 living with a barely literate cousin
with three kids (14 to 6)and supporting her family...All bisexuals and/orlesbians. And none had any guilty conscious. I was a member of their circle and was treated like a friend. But, I am sure, some or many more people too knew about their status.

A very titillating mystery is, all of them had a deep dislike about gay men.

Very interesting blog. First of all persons in a relationship define how that relationship shall be. What they will or will not engage in. I was taught what is in the dark, evemtually will come to the light. So, if man is a closet homosexual, a MMF could be a venue to release those hidden desires, probaly they wouldn't unless he was confident the other male was agreeable. Actually, people who have threesomes on the average are more honest between mates. At least that's been my experience in the past. Cheaters are cheaters, they are going to do it anyway. In this country, USA, we have a prudish viewpoint regarding sex. I believe that's why there are so many people who aren't fulfilled sexually. There are many ejaculaters (both male & female), fewer understanding & appreciating eroticism. The question is what do two people mutually want in their relationship, and to what length are willing to go to mutually get what they want.

P.S. For the record I'm not Gay

The number one reason for the threesome is to have fun. He might be a lil more interested in the other during the deed. but he used to u shes the new toy. And as a woman if ur not in to playing wit women then its probably not for you. Its not a half-hearted thing you're either all-in or your not.

On to some of your other points. Your mans a cheater or hes not. A good man who had a woman willing to bring other girls back ain't goin nowhere. If hes a cheater hes probably already cheating.

And the fear of opening up his inner bisexual tendencies.... well, if hes gay he was gay before you met him. And most of the time I hear about a male female male threesome the chick was just gettin a train ran on her. Thats prob just not the way you wanna go unless you just know your man is a super certified freak. Cause it usually wont work.

So if you know you got a good man. and you thinkn about doin it make sure you pick the girl, someone you'll feel comfortable with. It would help if she was someone you yourself found attractive. Get drunk, that's almost a must, and have fun.

i tried it a couple times. with my the current girl and mistress/ex-girl. it was amazing. the relationships were already damaged so it was MORE than worth it.

since then, sex with one woman, isn't necessarily boring, but two charged and enthusiastic women is much more fun.

a double standard, but i couldn't imagine being in a relationship with a woman who didn't share my appreciation of women and wouldn't want an occasional menage.

Be-careful what you ask for

frankie kate... i agree with you. it will never happen. have you ever seen the movie trois? im already the jealous type i would karate chop a bish..lol.

i would never do that.. no girl is laying on my sheets.. i read cosmo religiously for the sex columns so i am confident that i dont need to share an exotic sex experience in the form of having another woman or man in bed with us... no no and no