This article has been corrected thanks to the reader Jo Flow. You really are a precious gem and shit…. Thanks hun!
The blogs are buzzing with excitement over the rumored break up of T.I. and Tameka “Tiny” Cottle. When I first heard about it, I admit that I did not believe it. The man just got out of jail and from all accounts, they seem to have picked right back up where they left. Apparently, I could be wrong. According to an older interview that I heard on mrs.grapevine.com which featured Tiny herself confirmed that reality star Hoopz and T.I. had some type of fling at one point.
Now, as I said earlier this interview is a few years old and apparently Mrs.Grapvine used it to refresh the readers memories of the relationship that T.I. and Hoopz once had years ago and why it is now fishy for Hoopz to now be seen with T.I. publicly. Hoopz has also been seen in the front row of T.I.’s recent talk show appearances. It is not being made clear as to whether T.I. and Tiny have actually split or why? Some say it is because he wants to focus on getting his career back on path. This may be the truth but it makes his case for believing it hard to swallow when he has recently been seen on TV shows with his known side piece Hoopz in the audience instead of Tiny. Which brings me to the conclusion that T.I. wants to focus on his career as well as have a little sexy time fun with someone other than his now ex fiancé Tiny.
A lot of women have been rallying behind Tiny in support of her since the news of this suspected affair broke. They watched the reality show and saw how sad she was without T.I. They also saw, just as I have that she genuinely loves him. She does whatever it takes to keep him happy and puts him on a pedestal of respect and authority that most women do not do for their mates in this day and age. She admittedly gave up much of her old life and loves to be with T.I. She has been honest in expressing her wanting to have a career again and T.I. in turn was very honest in expressing that he did not want her to do much more than raise his kids. From the outside looking in, she has given up much of the things that made her happy to keep the peace between her and her man. After giving up so much and standing by T.I. through his trials in court and his imprisonment, she does not seem to be receiving the reciprocity that she deserves.
Sadly, this situation is the type of s**t that makes a real chick like myself hesitant on standing by a man through thick and thin. When T.I. was at his lowest point in his life possibly Tiny never left his side and followed his wishes even while he was behind prison bars. Yet and still he has the nerve to be seen in public with a past jump off. Word?
This is why I advice women not to do things that you are not comfortable with for the sake of love. If you feel like you are giving too much of yourself and not receiving enough in return then shut that s**t down! Don’t continue giving and giving in hopes that maybe one day, he will see how much you truly love him and decide to place you on some type of magical pedestal. As if magically a switch will turn on and he will want to do right. It does not happen that way. Especially once you have set the precedent that you will put up with a bunch of B.S. and always be there when he is done playing as Tiny seems to have.
This is something that Tiny probably knew deep down in the dark sectors of her mind but she ignored her first mind because she was in love. Which is why, as selfish as I feel T.I. is being right now, I cannot completely blame him. A man will only do what you allow him to. Believe it or not, even when you are in love, you still have power. You have power over your damn self and what you will accept and won’t. Tiny gave up her power a long time ago for the sake of love. Love does not ask you to be a doormat. I’m still secretly hoping that this is a publicity stunt and that T.I. would not be that selfish towards Tiny.
I use the situation between Tiny and T.I. as a jumping point to say that love does not require you to be a doormat and just accept anything that they do. There is a difference between compromising and being a fool. Secondly, do not do things that you do not feel comfortable with for the sake of love. I have tried it and I can tell you that every single time I did it I regretted it. The relationship ended up not being worth the trouble. Also, if you feel that you are giving a lot of yourself emotionally, mentally, spiritually, physically etc and the person is not giving you the same or what YOU feel is enough in return then stop! Protect your own neck. This is how people become despondent towards love and bitter. They feel used and abused because they never received what they gave. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting someone to love you and treat you right because you are willing to give the same to them. Period.
Most importantly, true love does not keep you down…..
Thoughts? Do you think the couple is fine and will get over this hump? Or do you think the site of T.I. hanging with his past jump off Hoopz is a sign of problems?
wtf? that picture looks like something made photoshop-_-
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