So, you have had a great time on your date. The guy seems to be just your type and you already know that you are down for date number two. You finally pull up to your front door, he walks you over to the door and expresses to you how much he enjoyed his time with you as well. He leans in towards you. You know what he wants. In a matter of seconds you must decide whether you will kiss on the first date or hold out. What is a girl to do?
Most people don’t even consider the question of kissing on the first date in this day and age because they have already moved on to the sex. When I was dating on a regular basis before I met my boyfriend, I would make it a point not to kiss on the first date. It wasn’t that I never wanted to. My reasoning was simple. One being that I did not know this person well enough to trust where his mouth has been. After all, he was not my man and he could have just finished putting his lips on another chicks lips. You decide which pair. The second being that men often base their expectations from your behavior. If I was too eager to allow him to kiss me then he might assume that I was eager for the sex as well. I admit, I was a bit of a prude.
Those were my reasons. It may sound silly now but in my mind it made sense and it also left me with some type of control. However, as the relationship between men and women becomes more liberated and less structured I wonder does it matter anymore whether you wait to kiss or not? Especially when people are getting it in with each other more and more after only knowing one another for a few hours. Fellas, if a girl kisses you on the first date does it affect your opinion on her either way? Also does it make you more inclined to believe that the sex will be coming soon? Ladies, does your kissing on the first date depend on how much you like the guy or do you have strict dating rules?
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Honestly, if the chemistry is poppin and I can feel that we both are really into eachother. Why not? Yeah, he may think he is getting sex later from you, but only you can control that. So you will find his intentions on the second date. When he takes you home after, go! When he tries to talk you into spending the night or well having sex, dont. I mean unless, you are really only sexually into him, he is really sexy and you just want to do him, just make sure you use protection! I don't think there is anything wrong with fufulling your sexual needs ( as long as your safe ). But just keep in mind.. (You actions, really speak for who you are as a person)-- I'll let you come up with that label yourself. And well Unless you have every quality this guy wants in a lady, and he is ready to settle down... Don't expect anything with him long term relationship wise. Well anything that isn't based on strictly sex that is. I mean, if he was willing to have sex with you so early, what does that say about his character. And what do you think he thinks of your character?
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