I’m posing a question, but first here is my disclaimer, “opinions are like a**holes, everyone has them, especially me.” Ever wonder what dude was thinking when he ordered Moscato without hesitation? Ever found yourself giving him the side eye when something said or done was suspect? What about a woman punking a man in public, as you’re laughing because you know her shoe size from the footprints all over him. Questioning why time is mostly spent as an Oprah discussion over NBA 2k11? We have now lived past the metro sexual and now have jumped straight into the twilight zone…..queue the music!! My question is, “Who is the woman and really the man?” This is not a chime on the gay community; this is a well deserved honorable mention to the miscommunication and mixed signals happening behaviorally between men and women.

Well ladies we asked for it, we wanted men to be more sensitive. It damn near feels like we are dating a woman now. Men are accompanying us to get mani-peds, adding extra input on our attire, and getting pissy attitudes for no reason at all. So how do we deal with the new man-tudes? I myself, along with many of my friends are now coddling men, and laughing with each other during girl time which is ironically equivalent to locker room humor. There isn’t anything wrong with sensitivity improvement, but there is something off with men becoming less emasculated. We have to find an even medium in encouraging him to stay true to his manhood. It’s one thing to have trust issue’s, it’s another for him to spend time with the bro’s. Men need to bond without interference from us. You will be surprised, if genuine common interest is shared, he may invite you to join. If you are not feeling sports, or his interests, find a way to support it. Suggest hosting a sports party for him.

Last time I checked, each sport has a fine specimen on the team that can keep you entertained. Fake it, or just have the stiletto’s on when he gets home! If a man keeps getting badgered about bonding with the bro’s, he may eventually stop hanging to appease you, become more sensitive, and upstage your PMS. Women have assumed the roles of men, legitimate, yet sad, we have now won our battle and now on an even playing field. Let’s get back in tune with our femininity and let a man be a man, your relationship quam is separate, know the difference between upgrading men, and justifying tampon shopping. If I had a dollar for every man posing as a secret service agent in the feminine product aisle, I would be broke!! Real Men don’t smile at the register unless there was a pregnancy scare….

To the brothers, there is nothing wrong with caring about appearances, do this in moderation. It’s one thing to walk through the door with a gift for a lady, it’s another in telling her how to dress Mr. fashion police. Come on son, that’s not sexy, and yes we laugh at you behind your back, and we LAUGH HARD! Arguments are to be had, but both parties cannot argue the same point with the same attitude, this is when we come out of the bag, and Diddy steps in (No B*tch*ssNess) and feelings get hurt. You hail from a different planet. Hands are supposed to get dirty changing a tire, not break a nail dialing for roadside assistance. It’s cool to like softer scented products, but I can remember a time when men would cringe at the fact that a girl saw his pomegranate cherry shower gel and pouf in the shower. As a woman, I have to say that this is not what I signed up for and this is one reason why I am single. Yes, I have been guilty in demanding, but this is why woman are constantly screaming “down low” and faking orgasms! HANDLE YOUR BUSINESS and PUT SOME BASS IN IT!! We have every reason under the sun to be finicky, it can be hormonal, circumstantial, and I can go on for days, you don’t like it, look it up, it’s in our DNA. What’s your excuse? You find yourself overwhelmed with emotions and you’re defending male/feminine ways, then maybe you are playing for the wrong team. It’s ok to come out of the closet, you have rights, a community, and even an awaiting parade to welcome you, as Grandpa said it best “Wow, You get all that with Gay??!!”

We live in a harsh world. The beauty is that we live in it with each other. Those roles should be recognized and improved, not changed. GLBT (Gay, lesbian, Bi-sexual, and transgender) are governed by their own rules, and if you are not a participant, there should be no relation in shared behavior. My 100% lesbian friend validated my quam with her face showed in horror as I talked about men and lady moods, followed by a laugh of not missing out on anything spectacular with guys. Now if we start getting into gold diggers, prostitutes, media whore’s, rappers, religious leaders, athlete’s, and celebrities lifestyles justifying the reasons roles have switched, then we are doomed, cause last time I checked, I was giving quite a few people the side eye. Hopefully this message will give everyone a little insight to where we fall short with each other and how to improve. Be Blessed Peeps, and remember that God has a purpose for us all, and if you were meant to be who you are, then you should be confident in what you do!

Written By: Keish