"Do as I say... not as I do" is every parent's secret motto.

That same pastor just confessed to a threesome with his wife and a male church assistant. True story. I saw it on the front page of the Huffington Post.

Facebook has changed so much. When I was in college which I grad Dec 07 it was so different. It was a great way to keep in contact but now its like "are you serious" I dont even take it as all honesty ppl just moved to fb fr myspace bc it tells more of your business..but hey to each its on..I still use it for what I've always used it for to keep in contact w/my peeps from college fr across the world....but satan is every where that there is opportunity and hes there to use those that will allow him to so hey....just let that not be you

I'm cool with his motives. He's trying to help the congregation get the drama out of their marraiges. Some might say he needs to get out of their personal business. But church isn't just a "place you go", show off your outfit, say AMEN, then bounce out early because the the Cowboys (Go COWBOYS!!) are playing at noon. A church is a family and when things are going wrong in the family someone has to step up and say "Okay, this ain't workin'". That seems to be what Pastor is doing.

Marraige is one of the most important choices we make in our lives. The only thing better than a healthy marraige (as opposed to an unhealthy marraige) is going to heaven. Money, career, good health, etc. are all great... but having a marraige that works properly instead of one that makes your hair fall out makes those things even better.

And I'm sure Pastor knows that keeping your marraige healthy and drama free makes it easier to stay closer to God. (I assume that's the congregations purpose.... right?) But he's going about it wrong. The drama comes from the dishonest motives of husbands and wives. That can't be fixed by him demanding the close of facebooks account.

I've got a couple of ex's as friends on my facebook page. They both know I'm happily married and WILL stay that way. And though I've never had to verbalize it, they know I would delete their behinds in a hot second if my husband was the least bit uncomfortable.

Hubby and I have identical passwords, not because of lack of trust, but because there is nothing to hide. We don't want to give opportunity to the possiblity that we need to shut down our accounts due to drama.

I can't say that I agree with the Pastor... but I'm not mad at him either.