After witnessing a heated debate regarding male homo sexual examination, I am posing a question about hetero sexual males and their phobias to anyone that reads this article. Are men uncomfortable with the roles gay men engage in anal sex, or are men upset with the stereotyping of their role in society? Either way both of these scenarios highly affect heterosexual males comfort levels.

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When homosexuality is addressed, the Bible is used as a reference point to legitimize some arguments. There’s a plethora of scriptures that references sexual behavior with the same sex as sodomy. I personally never thought much into it, until I actually witnessed a heterosexual man intellectually debating his points to a homosexual male without assuming he’s homophobic. After reading his body language, I noticed him wincing and make strained faces as if he was in pain. It finally hit me, was the face made because he was mentally visualizing a sexual act? When mentioning “homosexuality” to test my theory, my male friend became apprehensive and rejected the conversation with the same strained face. “The idea of anal sex pops in my head, and their “packages” that’s the only way men can hook up, I don’t want to think about that Keish”, was his response when I inquired. In hetero sexual relationships the proposition of anal/oral sex can be rejected with the same facial gesture. If he is uncomfortable and rejects the idea and does not engage in it with his partner, he can be very uncomfortable in discussion. The heterosexual male’s apprehensiveness to discuss is valid. Anal/oral sex is a very specific conversation to be had, and only if both parties are engaged in it. The discussion cannot be forced on anyone when they are uncomfortable, which will create a biased response

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Sad but true, society devalues same sex male roles. It is argued that the homosexual lifestyle is abnormal and effeminate as if a man cannot be masculine in his relationship. A heterosexual male does have the right to take the defensive if there is an association if his role is challenged. It’s no different than a woman’s discontent with stereotypes regarding prostitution and so on. In the gay community, it’s the flamboyancy that causes the role assignment and perpetuates into the “homosexual tendencies” stereotype. In the past, men were regarded as the head of the house hold, breadwinning, brut, testosterone pumping creatures of the world. Men are questioned more in sexual behavior association because of the openness of homosexuality, bi-sexual behavior, and the down-low brother phenomenon.

I have questioned men addressing their femininity which can raise a bigger question, or assumption of sexual preference. The same question can be asked regarding a woman who may be too emasculated. When a male is asked his position or is invited into a debate regarding male homosexuality, it may not be that he is judging or against the idea, he may legitimately be uncomfortable. As I have these questions, and sought the answers, I also believe that if some people are left out of discussions about homosexual rights and lifestyle, it would not provide grounds for hateful and hurtful comments when responding.

Written By: Keisha Wilson

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