Rapper Method Man opened a can of salitiness from Black women across the world when a recent video of him expressing his dislike for Black women who wear their hair natural surfaced. In the video, Method states that he prefers his chick to relax or perm her hair. This is his preference for the woman he dates. This is what he finds attractive.

In fact, I may be one of the few Black women who saw this rant and did not want to raise hell over it. Its 2011 and I want Black women to get over the nappy headed dialogue. Playing devil’s advocate; how can I truly be upset with Method’s preference? I too have my own preferences that some people might find to be ignorant or childish. For instance, I prefer Black men when dating. But not just Black, I prefer men with a darker complexion. The darker he is the more I want him. That is not to say that I will not or have never dated a man that with lighter skin or a man out of my race. Because I have, several times. It just means that I have a stronger attraction level towards men with dark skin. One can say that this is my preference then. True that I could be doing myself a disjustice by having this preference but the key words her are “My Preference”.

Despite the fact that Method Man’s delivery may have come across curt, ignorant and or hurtful, I cannot wholeheartedly deem him wrong and banish him to the dogs. I think that Black women can be overly sensitive about issues relating to our weight, attitude, complexion, and hair. Now don’t get me wrong, we have good reason to be sensitive as we have suffered through years of verbal and emotional abuse from society and sometimes from each other and our Black men. It is a hell of a feeling to be disregarded and valued less than White women in society but then watch as we are constantly mimiced by them. Trust me when I say, I understand where the pain comes from. I would never say that we should forget that it ever occurred. However, we should get over the sh*t.

The truth of the matter is that some things comes down to attraction. Sure, for some there might be elements of self hate mixed in but not in every situation. Some desires are solely based on what gets us gewey and we are all guilty of them. Who is to say that one is worse than the other? For instance, I prefer a man with a damn job over one that would rather lay up and have me take care of him financially. Does that mean that I am wrong for preferring a hard working man over one with a more relaxed approach to life? Just because he isnt working does not mean that he would be unable to make me happy in a relationship. Maybe I am missing out by having this prefernece? I also prefer a man that does not have several kids by several different women. Does that make me morally wrong for not being attracted to a breeder? No. I could possibly have missed out on a good man by having this preference. Some men won’t date me because they prefer a woman that is less career oriented and more interested in being a wife and mother only. That does not make his preference wrong either. While other guys may not dig me because my a** is not big enough. This is their preference. Some women prefer a man with a big.. clears throat.. penis and will refuse to date anyone who is light in the pants area. She is not wrong for wanting this. I can go on and on but you get where I am going.

The point here kids is who the hell am I or you to judge which preference is acceptable and which is not for someone else? Perhaps Method Man is simply not attracted to a chick with an afro. Some women may not be attracted to him because he is a rapper. Neither of them are wrong for having their own desires.

The only damage that can truly be done from having any preference is it could make it more difficult for someone to find the love of their life. At the end of the day that is their choice if they want to be alone, or not “settle” because they have a certain set of unwavering likes/dislikes. However we all have them. One is not more or less bias than the other just because it may be politcally incorrect to say it aloud.

So while I feel my sistas on their disappointment in Method man’s discrimination on certain types of chicks to an extent, I do not think it is something worth becoming upset over. Needles to say the video has now been removed from YouTube.