Women and vanity have gone hand and hand since we discovered that we could see our reflection in a shiny piece of material. Almost every woman has a side to them that urges them to want to look their best. Whether it is for themselves, for the attention of men, or the attention of one man in particular. Every woman wants to feel pretty. This desire did not always have a sense of danger to it until more recently. More and more women are feeling the pressure to reach a perceived level of attractiveness and are willing to under go chop-shop surgeries in order to attain it. Ladies, we are in a scary place. Rather a scary state of mind. We all have to snap out of it.

Can You Survive The Booty Wars?

To be willing to risk your life for the sake of beauty is unimaginable. But it is a real threat. Recently Claudia Aderotimi, an English woman who had traveled to Philadelphia, to get implants in her behind, died after the illegal operation. The woman believed that a bigger derriere would help her career in being a Hip-Hop video model. Aderotimi started to complain of chest pain around midnight and died around 1:30 a.m. after being taken to a Delaware County hospital, police say. The preliminary cause of death is attributed to silicone injected into the woman’s vascular system, ultimately stopping her heart, according to the Delaware County medical examiner, but it is “pending further studies.” The autopsy is not yet complete.

Talent scout Tee Ali, who met the university student when she filmed a video, told The Sun: ‘She was a dancer and choreographer. The problem was she didn’t have no butt, and she wanted a butt. She went to audition for one video shoot wearing fake booty pants and she got all the attention. But when they found out it was fake she didn’t get asked back.’

Ladies, I cannot stress how detrimental it is that you love yourself as is. Not every slight annoyance with your body is worth having someone cut, carve, slice and dice into it. You will never be perfect. Why? Because perfection does not exist. You will always find something unattractive on your body that you want to do a quick fix to. Someone will always have a complaint about your “look”.

What goes through someone’s mind to make them want to alter themselves so much so that they are willing to have someone carve and cut on their body? Is it low self esteem? Should we blame society for placing these images of the unattainable “perfect woman” in media? Should we blame men for placing these perceived levels of expected beauty? We could do all three. But that would not be the core root of the issues here. Self love is.

At some point, we each have to say that enough is enough. Enough women have died on the surgery table in hopes of reaching their idea of perfection. You will never be perfect. Not every one will see you as the ideal image of beauty. Yes at some point ladies, good common sense and pride has to take affect within each of us. Maybe even a little cockiness won’t hurt. Something has to click internally that tells you that going to ridiculous strains for beauty is idiotic and also dangerous. Something must click internally that tells you that your are beautiful as is. No assembly needed. This is why I myself cannot completely blame the media, men, or any other source of impressionability. It is not another person’s job to make us feel beautiful or to constantly fulfill our self esteem. That responsibility lies within and is something that we must learn to nurture on our own at some point in our lives.

When this woman was told that her rump was not big enough for the video she could have done on of two things. Collapsed internally and emotionally over being dismissed. Or, said screw them, and had the attitude of they don’t know what they are missing and kept it moving to the next video shoot. Because in reality, not every video model is thick or even extra curvy. Some are petite.

Ladies, at times we may feed off the energy of a man who is obviously attracted to us. Yes, this makes us feel special and or wanted in some cases but this alone cannot be the only tool that makes you feel whole ladies. It must start and end from within.

Of course this teaching starts at home. It starts when we are little girls and this is why it is essential that parents tell their children how beautiful, special and perfect they are. We must remind them of this and nurture this. However, as they grow, they must develop a way to continue nurturing these thoughts and building their self esteem and self worth on their own.

Say this aloud with me: This woman died for a bigger a**. It does not make any more sense whether it is said or read. It is a sad day when any woman dies for the sake of vanity.