I’m sitting here in awe as I read this “list of things a girl should do to keep a man” This list outlines everything from performing oral sex multiple times a day, to taking him shopping, to pleasuring yourself in front of him, to even DOING HIS FREAKING LAUNDRY! I may not have as much of a hard time stomaching this list if it was coming from a married woman, and I say that because this list involves giving up a lot of “married woman goods”. Perhaps I’m taking it out of context because it was originally taken from someone’s facebook page, in which case there may be more to the story then what’s included here. It could have even been a joke (please be a joke). But if this is what our generation of females thinks it takes to maintain a romantic relationship, then I can see why so many young men are already declaring by the age of 22, that they will NEVER get married. As the old adage goes, “Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free” And girls like this? Just giving up all of their milk.

Think about it. If your plan for a relationship is based on your goal of pleasing him, then you’re already headed in the wrong direction. If you use the same standards to please every guy, then that means you’re giving every guy the same treatment, the same emotion, the same sex, the same everything. What unique gift will you have to offer the one who may want to marry you one day? If you don’t use discernment in deciding who is worthy of what treatment, then you are practically draining yourself physically of everything you have to offer. Emotions will follow shortly after because we are women, and that’s how we operate. But men are far more different.

In reality men’s emotions are not much affected by sexual acts, therefore there is no amount of sex, oral sex, or whatever other type of sex you may have up your sleeve, that will ensure that your man stays exclusive to YOU. Yea of course if the sex is good, he’s going to keep having sex with you, as well as doing all the things he has to do to keep you happy. Why? Fewer headaches for him. As long as he takes you out on a regular basis, he can keep getting the booty from you. Meanwhile, he’s up all night on the phone with some chick from his class having deep, meaningful conversation and hasn’t even mentioned having sex with her. Why? Because he’s having sex with you, and you do it oh so well, whenever he feels like it, you don’t call him, you take him shopping AND you do his laundry! Why would he just let that go? He won’t, but he will find another girl that satisfies his emotional needs. After all…he’s got you for the physical and everything else under the sun.

So when you finally decide to leave him (or not) you find a new one and give him the exact same treatment. Because that’s how you keep your man right? Right. Now you’re on this cycle of “doing things to keep your man” with every guy you guy you get involved with, in hopes of finding the guy that will one day marry you. Here’s the thing. Men like to feel like they’re getting something special. So when you come to them and you’re already their fantasy sex kitten, they know from the jump that you have been performing these acts long before you met them, and it kind of loses it’s appeal. I mean yea you know how to do great tricks in bed, but the thrill kind of dies, when he knows you’ve already been doing the same thing with the guy in his Advanced Marketing class. *shrugs* The thing is, any girl can learn how to perform in bed, but not everyone was blesses with intelligence, and a great personality. So with that said, go ahead and use your best asset, and if that’s sex *shrugs* to each his own. But using that logic, if your method for keeping a man relies heavily on sex, then sorry honey, but you’re easily replaceable.

“Don’t be offended this is all my opinion, ain’t nothing that I’m saying a law.

Written By: Damaris H.

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