Bottom Feeder: One that feeds low on the food chain; a scavenger.

I am going to keep this short and sweet. This fell on my heart and I had to share. You can either ignore it or take it in and hopefully pass it on. The choice is yours. This rant is dedicated to my ladies. Women complain a lot about men and their behavior but these same women will continue to deal with said man for years and years with no end to his bad behavior in sight. Ladies, don’t be a bottom feeder. Don’t love out of desperation and fear of loneliness. Don’t be accepting of men who are on the bottom of the barrel when it comes to how they will treat the woman they are involved with. For some this may sound a bit unrealistic since some women feel that they must do whatever it takes to keep a man. Even if that means going against every grain of their own being and soul, losing their morals, and placing him first constantly as if he was a deity. These are also the same women who are confused by the constant unwanted results of this behavior. It is called a precedent. When you set a precedent for accepting b.s. then that is what will come your way. If you welcome trash into your life, then you will live a life of filth.

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Ladies, you should never feel like you have to accept someone giving you nothingness. By nothing I mean lack luster love, non-affection, cheating, abuse, or anything else that can be destructive in a relationship. Never place energy into the lie that if you don’t accept it then another woman will. Perhaps another woman will accept it but wouldn’t you rather it be her than you? I know I would. This lie breeds fear and no quality love can come from fear.

Stop being a bottom feeder. Meaning, stop falling into the mental trap that you have to accept any and everything from a man in fear that if you don’t he will leave.Stop accepting the worst from a man. This a horrible way to maintain a relationship. Loving him with fear. Giving him all of your power. Falling into the idea that you are beneath him and that his love is somehow worth more than yours. You’re bottom feeding.

We have been tricked into believing that asking for what you feel you are worth, demanding to be loved a certain way is equal to you being full of yourself. It is not. Any man or woman, who tries to tell you that you should settle for less than what your heart desires, less than what you know you are worth receiving is someone that you should stay away from. They do not have your best interest at heart. Or, they may not know any better themselves.

Never accept the notion that you must accept and love scum or risk being alone. Don’t search through trash, accept trash and expect a clean and healthy outcome. Don’t be a bottom feeder.