I have never thought rapper Fifty Cent was an attractive man; and I do mean NEVER. Not even the six pack he sported on his debut album “Get Rich Or Die Tryin” did it for me. Now, I can honestly say that I am even less attracted to him after his recent comments about singer Jill Scott on Twitter.

Did he just compliment her while silmutaneously dissing her?! Wait, who the hell does this guy think he is? Rap career aside, Fifty Cent mimics the same mentality that a lot of men have. The “she is cute for a big girl” ideal. Not to be confused with it’s equally menacing evil twin sister the “she is cute for a dark skin girl” mentality that some brothas also carry. Which is an equally ignorant comparison that wreaks more of self hate than of personal preference. To clarify, I am not hating on Fifty for his right to be attracted to slim women. It is only when you display that opinionated attraction with such disrespect and ignorance that it boils my blood. I mean really? Did he have to compare the sista to a station wagon? My Grandpa drove a brown station wagon when I was a little girl, and there was nothing sexy, feminine, or attractive about it.

It was as if, in his attempt to compliment Jill, he still had to let it be known that he only finds her SLIGHTLY attractive. He definitely does not find her as attractive as he would find a slimmer female. Let us not be confused. Was this out of fear of being called a big girl lover? A chubby chaser? Or some other derogatory term? Perhaps he thought his G-Unit gorillas would clown his choice in women. I’m betting it was out of some sense of embarasement for even admitting to his attraction to a woman that was not a size 1. A size that the average American woman is not by the way.

Fifty is not the first nor the last man to cautiously compliment a thicker woman out of fear of some kind of public ridicule by other men, for finding her attractive. So clearly this is not an issue that only he has. It is easy to see how easily a compliment can be killed by a disclaimer.

Why is it necessary for the rugged clarification guys? If you think she is hot then you should be free to express that without some tasteless disclaimer. Jill Scott is a grown woman and she has always been a thicker girl from her own self description. So, she probably has been called worse in her lifetime, therefore I doubt Fifty’s immaturity fazed her. Still, I feel the need to call out stupidity when it is deemed fit. A real man is comfortbale not only in his own skin but with the decisions he makes and the women he chooses to deal with. I’m just sayin…

When the question is posed as to whether “cute for a big girl” or “cute for a dark skin girl” is a compliment or a diss? I choose to roll with diss! Who wants a damn compliment with a disclaimer of that person’s choice attached to it? Your including the disclaimer insinuates that you think something is wrong with the person. Which in essence, comletely makes the compliment non-existent in my book. If that is how you choose to compliment me guys, then you can keep your compliments to yourself and save them for your mothers.

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