Justin Combs, son of Hip-Hop mogul Sean P. Diddy Combs made an interesting comment on his Twitter after the announcement of Beyonce’s pregnancy. He alluded to the fact that young girls should adhere to how Beyonce played out her life. He went on to say that the man that she was in love with dated her, married her and then impregnated her. This was an interesting comment considering the source. You see, Justin’s mother and Diddy have never been married. In fact, his father has never married any of the women that he has had his several children with. This makes one consider his own feelings towards his parents.

This is why, in this moment, I consider Beyonce to be a reasonable role model for our your children. Booty bouncing aside, let’s take a look at the facts. She is a career motivated woman, who runs her own business. She dated her husband for years, truly getting to know one another before marriage. Finally, she seemed to have planned out her pregnancy with him, waiting a few years after marriage.

I’m not knocking anyone who has a baby daddy or several baby daddy’s for that matter. My point is that if women would insist that they become wives and not just baby mother’s more often than the respect and appreciation that they often yearn for from their male counterparts might be given to them more often than not. I often hear stories of women who have several children by a man, stay with him for years upon years, hoping that one day this man that they have given their lives and heart to will marry them one day. Sometimes he eventually gives in but most of the time, they don’t. Why? It is because of the precedent that we often set for men. Women are sometimes afraid to put their foot down and insist upon what they desire and feel that they are truly worth receiving. “Lord! I can’t do that because he might leave me for another woman then!” Granted, this is a possibility, but in most cases, its an unwarranted threat.

The truth is that if this man truly loves you, then he will do what is necessary to keep you happy and to keep your love for him strong. How this all relates to Beyonce? Well, she got what she truly desired not only from the man she loves, but from her life in general. She wanted her career and so she went after it. She did not place having a man before that goal. She wanted love, and she got that as well. She felt that she deserved to be a wife, and he gave her that. He wanted a baby and she waited until she was made a wife to give him that. But the point is that she knew what she deserved and never backed down from it. She was secure in her own self worth.

Now I am not suggesting that herds of baby mamas leave their baby daddies because he refuses to marry them. If you are indeed happy in your situation and in no rush for marriage then do you. I am insisting that women refuse to settle in not only their love lives but in their life’s ambitions. Even if you have to use Beyonce as a temporary role model.

I often tease Beyonce for constantly singing love songs about how much she adores her husband and loves their life together. I used to think she went over board. However, I had to check myself. Wait a minute LJ. She is not singing about some dude that she is dating, or that she is chasing after but he is barely paying her attention. That is her damn husband. He is her King and she is his Queen. He deserves that adoration from her and she from him.