Ladies, this one is for you. I was inspired by a home girl of mine who says that she is dealing with a guy who says that he knows she is a good woman. He thinks she is beautiful. But for some reason, he just isn’t feeling her “like that”. You want to know what my advice to her was? I told her to keep it moving. Quickly. His is not worth it and don’t waste your time trying to convince him that you are. One thing you must know is that you cannot convince a man of anything. It is always better when they come to the conclusion on their own. This gives them the opportunity to “take you in”. See, a man knows the qualities he wants in a woman. Well, a smart man does.

Just to be clear, I have no problem with my friend’s guy. I’m sure he is a cool guy and I respect him for at least being honest with her instead of playing with her emotions and wasting her time. What concerns me is when women are dating a man, who clearly is not that into her, yet she continues to chase after him, beg for his attention, in hopes that one day- Oh Lord. Yes, one day, he will see how special she truly is and want her and only her. They then will hold hands and skip off unto a Lucky Charms rainbow in the sky.

5 Signs That He Is Not The Man For You That Women Ignore.

You’re playing yourself. Don’t allow yourself to fall into the trap of chasing after a man and constantly trying to prove to him how special you are. He won’t be responsive to you and it won’t make him respect you. You could hand over your entire check to help him pay his bills. Sacrifice your own well being and he still won’t see how much you care for him. I use that example because women tend to think acts of selflessness like this are the key to making a man love and cherish them. Women will also accept any type of behavior from a man, thinking that this is the key to his heart. Or, fearing that if they rock the boat too much, he will leave. Who wants to live like this? Who wants to love like this? This is not healthy love ladies.

You should never give more than what YOU are comfortable with giving. Why? They don’t need the ish. Contrary to popular opinion, men are not complicated creatures. Women give them entirely too much credit. I say this not to mean any disrespect fellas. Women will often assume that they need to give their very last to a man. That they need to give all of their heart and soul to a man and save nothing for themselves in order for him to love them endlessly. That we should never tell a man “no”. Wrong! This type of selflessness is not needed. Believe it or not, a man will respect you more when you set boundaries and actually stick to them. This also will cause him to be more intrigued by you because you value yourself. When you value yourself it makes others around you want to do the same. They truly have no choice. If he doesn’t respect it then he has an option to leave.

Secondly, any man who requires you to give and give and he is still never satisfied has issues of his own. They have nothing to do with you. So, no matter how much you give, he will never be satisfied. He will always crave more because he has issues that are deeper than you and his relationship. You could be the “perfect” woman and he still won’t be receptive to it.

In summation, stop playing yourself ladies. If a man tells you that he is not that into you, or shows you obvious signs that he is only half interested in you. Don’t stress about it. Do you. Be confident in what you have to offer. If you think that you have given him sufficient time to see this and he still isn’t getting the picture then please, I beg of you, keep it moving. Someone will see the virtue of all that you are and all that you give and do. The plus to this is that you won’t have to give him half of your soul for him to appreciate you.